In whatever kind of relationship, here are the 6 likely reasons one person pulled away. Bear in mind that these reasons could be expounded upon depending on the relationship.
1. THEY DIDN’T TRULY KNOW YOU: Usually, in a relationship, each person has an idea of who they think their partner is, and so relate to each other in that light. Sooner or later they get to know who they really are and it becomes tedious to deal with or relate with both the absolute person and the image they have created in their mind. They will have to make a decision at this point.
While some wouldn’t like to change you, others may try but we can all agree that changing a person is not that easy and moreover, in my opinion, a wrong approach to the situation. You don’t have to change people, it’s better to embrace them or leave them for someone who wants to.
To avoid this situation, it’s important to first discover yourself and embrace who you are and then of course present yourself to people from your first meeting as this saves you from going through a roller coaster of emotional drama later. It gives everyone a chance to know you and choose you. The best gift you can give to your world is your uniqueness.
Think of yourself as a unique product brand. If you market it with lies and pretence and a client comes to you and purchases it based on all you have said to him. when he goes away and realises that the product you sold didn’t serve all the purposes you claimed or that it wasn’t of a good quality, what would you have him do with it?
If you have to work on yourself and improve yourself, go ahead and do so. That way, you could become a better version of yourself and not an imposter.
2. THEY WERE NOT WHO YOU THOUGHT THEY WERE AND THEY JUST DON’T WANT TO ACT OR PRETEND ANYMORE: Most often this is just the reason, need I say more? Can I make it any more obvious? Your school teacher must have told you that ” all that glitter is not gold”. All you thought or imagined they were, they played it for you all along and right now they can’t continue any longer.
Try playing a role in a drama that never ends and you can imagine the stress involved. Surely, you will get exhausted at some point and want to have a break.
To avoid this: instead of telling people the traits a person you would love to be with should have, try appreciating the traits they already have that you are looking for. Also, be the one to look out for such traits instead of listing it out before your supposed Partner, He or she may only see it as a challenge to play a role to please you and may take up this challenge but get worn out sometime later.
3.THEY WERE SHORTSIGHTED: vision is empowerment. Lack of it can destroy a whole lot. Proverbs 29:18 says “where there’s no Vision the people perish”. Vision is an ability to see, usually pertaining to the future or the invisible. If a person judges you by who you are today, and can’t see any light in your future, or doesn’t see your Potentials, He could leave you.
Once, the people of Israel rejected a prophet and wanted a king to rule them instead. In their minds, they thought they were rejecting Samuel but little did they know – “And the LORD said to Samuel, ‘Obey the voice of the people in all that they say to you, for they have not rejected you, but they have rejected me from being king over them’” (1 Samuel 8:7) – They rejected God himself due to their bad vision they couldn’t see beyond Samuel. For such people, rejecting you could be a mistake on their side, but hear me, except his eyes be opened there is nothing that you can do to make a blind man see, you can’t make them stay. Just Let them go, their departure is good news because it leads me to the next point;
4 THEY WERE NOT MEANT FOR YOU. Or to be more direct, you don’t need them now and maybe never: some people could delay, mislead or confuse you in life, and sometimes, God allows them to walk away so you could be stable, established and fulfilled.
So, no matter – matter is anything that has mass and occupies space – who walked away, your world has just started spinning faster, because there’s less mass. Get excited and be grateful. Rather than bear grudges give a handshake and say thank you for leaving now, it’s better now than later.
Remember, Israel’s Journey of 40 days was lengthened to 40 years just because there were some people among them that were not meant to go into the promise land and until those people died, they caused a terrible delay in the fulfillment of God’s plan in the lives of the others.
5. IT WAS FOR YOUR GOOD: As a kid we recited these lines as a rhyme – Good,better, best. I shall never rest until my good is better and my better best – It took me years to understand what we were taught in that simple rhyme. For every good, there’s a better, and for every better there’s a best. Only God knows the demarcation line between your good and better and your best, so let him guide you to the best.
6.THEY HELPED YOU LEARN HUMILITY AND LOVE :Jesus was and is still being rejected by some yet He is Strength, confidence and love personified. He won’t change His standards nor become bitter and weep just because He was rejected. If you can learn anything from this post, learn humility. He never promised us that everyone will love us but he told us to love everyone.
It’s pride that makes a man think he can’t be rejected, you have esteemed yourself more highly than you ought to. Your boast should be that you are loved and accepted by the real essence of Life – God.